Relationships for a Season


Photo by Larisa Birta


I ran across a poem called “Reason, Season, Lifetime”.  As August gives us a shift into retrograde and the eclipse to look forward to, the poem seems so fitting.

Reason Season Lifetime

People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
Or to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

“When people come into your life for a SEASON,
It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
The season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person anyway;
And put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Of the three above, the “Season” seems to impact my life with such a force, I wonder if it is all worth it. I crave connection. I love being able to have in-depth conversations with people. I limit my close friends as I am cautions of people in general.  I have a failed notion that anyone I allow into my personal space would contribute the same desire for spiritual connection as I do.

Many say I push people away, I am intimidating, or my logic over powers my empathy. The truth is, I feel so much empathy for people, that when they are here for only a season, it is too hard for my spirit to handle the lost connection. Therefore it is easier to never allow seasons to exist.  Do I listen to my soul and prevent the hurt from happening again? No. I find myself in the same situation, with the same turmoil running through my heart and mind. Will I ever learn, or is it innate within myself to continue the desire for connection, no matter the cost?

How do you handle the seasons?